#BeingHuman - look after your << self >>: love is all it needs.

WTAF is going on? If you look around and think that, this may help you. It’s not professional advice, just a shout out to anyone that may benefit from hearing it.

Caring isn’t all you need but it’s the heart of it. I care about people having at least a sliver of light and peace in their lives. Especially if, in the face of the BS we see in America and spreading to Europe, you are fighting the good fight. I hope this means something to you.

Yeah, this might be the strange mumblings of a neurodivergent individual (it’s a condensed version of something I’ve been rewriting for 20 months - in the circumstances I feel it’s right to say something).

Or it may help someone with a similar mind or anyone looking at the world and thinking WTAF.

Take a moment to be mentally kind to yourself.

I’ve meditated on and off for over 27 years. It started as a quest to be better at sport and very quickly a way to not be a “failure”, deal with a lack concentration, and how to not be “lazy”.

In my early 20s it worked, I found success in sport and studies. It’s taken me 25 years to really appreciate why it worked.

I took time (when I was depressed, confused, or generally unhappy), calmly sat and breathed with that feeling, and, most importantly, told myself realistically positive things. Often as simple as “this will pass”, and when calm “I would like things to be better”.

Don’t wish for specific things. Wish, intend, aim for general and positive goals. Give yourself a break from aiming for specifics. Positive feedback comes in different forms to those we expect.

The trickiest part was (sometimes still is); calm, positive self talk. Initially I’d think I was stupid. I’ve had negative “internal chat”, that has all passed.

I’ve used it in the face of personal and social difficulties (Brexit for me) and I’ve not solved those problems but I’ve separated my negative feelings about what is happening from myself and my family and forged positive outcomes for myself and those close to me.

So, whether you made it this far in the post or not,

I wish you well

I wish you freedom from stress

I wish you success in any endeavour you are doing for good

I wish you peace of mind